A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.
The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority.
The grandson stopped and though about it for a second. Then he looked up at his grandfather and said, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replied, “The one you feed”.
The one you feed on your newsfeed, specifically, is the one that I was talking about today with a friend.
I sent a THANK YOU photo to 100 of my friends on Facebook today to let them know they had touched my life. I was genuinely shocked at how many responses came back with words of kindness and how much I have inspired others with what I post on Facebook each day. I discussed this with my friend when we spoke of how our posts make others feel.
I make a conscious effort to post positive news MOST of the time on Facebook. I have shared some down times and sad memories, too, but for the most part, I highlight what makes me happy. I then start to scroll through what my friends are posting. Some of them post tirades about sexual harassment, our President’s foibles, the unfairness in the world, etc. I noticed that some friends feed the wolf of negativity, while other friends feed the wolf of positivity. I am not going to cast judgement on their choices, (and there has been PLENTY to post about on those two subjects lately) but want to point this out to you when your fingers are hovering above your keyboard-think about what energy you are about to cast out into the world.
I started a gratitude journal in 2010, while I was trying to get through the recession. In my other journal, I found I was focusing on what was wrong in my life. The new journal, I made a promise to myself, would ONLY have what was RIGHT in it. It changed my life. When I re-read the entries, it seemed that my life was on the upswing, that I was in control, that opportunities were showing up and I was grateful for my family. I learned the concept of “Gratitude is the attitude” and transferred my positivity over to Facebook. New friends showed up, I was invited to collaborate on projects, my future clients saw a life well lived and later commented on how full my life was with travel, family and friends.
Do you think that EVERYTHING was going well? No. I lost some homes to short sales, I was sad for a very long time about the death of my mom, and I DID share some of the those stories with my sphere on Facebook, but always turned the sad around to what I was learning in the process. My friends watched me struggle with the cold and snow last year, but I focused on finding a bright spot to share each day.
I am not PollyAnna riding the white wolf down the glory path, but wanted to share my journey of finding the good stuff and sharing THAT, and the ripple effect of people commenting and putting a smile on their faces instead of more dread for the future. We don’t have to feed THAT wolf.